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shadowkatFirefox keeps kicking me out of all of my logins - if they've not been active for a while. I get that it is a security precaution. But it's also annoying.
It's easier to forgive painful slights than it is to forget them, unfortunately? And even when I do, my body remembers them. This brings to mind a Sondheim song, Children Will Listen, in it is the lyric: careful the things you say, careful the things you do...children will listen
I think it's important to be mindful of what we say to each other - because a seemingly careless barb said or posted in the heat of a moment, which we or you or I may forget immediately thereafter, could sink in and damage the unlucky soul on the other end. Kindness and mindfulness often go hand in hand, and are lot harder than either appears.
I also think - music often captures the difficult emotions we can't quite find the words or means to describe. Music and paintings, photography, art of all sorts. Some artists create to music, while some musicians create looking at art.
The outside world at times feels sharp edged. And it can be difficult to find the soft edges.
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I asked my mother if I should/could come to see her in July, since Jury Duty could be anywhere from August to December. But mother doesn't want to do that - mainly because she has no idea what to do with me and likes to keep her life on Hilton Head separate from her family. (And to be fair? I've become incredibly high maintenance, unlike my brother and niece who low maintenance - diet issues, bad knees, back issues, special pillow, and can't drive. Although she was nervous about them visiting them as well, she had no idea what to do with them - and was worried they'd be bored. We have to travel too far - is the problem? She live about a 1-2 hour plane ride away. So just a quick weekend getaway doesn't quite work in regards to expense, and travel time.)
I don't really want advice on this. Mother would prefer to do something else with me, but we've not figured it out, and there are obstacles. My knees. Upcoming jury duty. Her health. My job.
My mother is like her own mother - generous to a fault, but undemanding, and not liking to impose or inconvenience anyone. And I, alas, am like them both. We don't like being high maintenance, or asking for help in my family. We like to be independent, and not put anyone out. So I may physically be high maintenance, but not emotionally. In fact, the first time my grandmother had a birthday party was when she turned 90, because her birthday fell on the day after Christmas. And she didn't want to make a fuss. Everyone in my immediate family hates to be the center of attention, doesn't like a fuss being made over them, and doesn't really understand folks that do.
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Looked up Jilly Coopers Rivals series on Good Reads, and discovered from the reviews the following:
( Read more... )
Off to bed.
It's easier to forgive painful slights than it is to forget them, unfortunately? And even when I do, my body remembers them. This brings to mind a Sondheim song, Children Will Listen, in it is the lyric: careful the things you say, careful the things you do...children will listen
I think it's important to be mindful of what we say to each other - because a seemingly careless barb said or posted in the heat of a moment, which we or you or I may forget immediately thereafter, could sink in and damage the unlucky soul on the other end. Kindness and mindfulness often go hand in hand, and are lot harder than either appears.
I also think - music often captures the difficult emotions we can't quite find the words or means to describe. Music and paintings, photography, art of all sorts. Some artists create to music, while some musicians create looking at art.
The outside world at times feels sharp edged. And it can be difficult to find the soft edges.
**
I asked my mother if I should/could come to see her in July, since Jury Duty could be anywhere from August to December. But mother doesn't want to do that - mainly because she has no idea what to do with me and likes to keep her life on Hilton Head separate from her family. (And to be fair? I've become incredibly high maintenance, unlike my brother and niece who low maintenance - diet issues, bad knees, back issues, special pillow, and can't drive. Although she was nervous about them visiting them as well, she had no idea what to do with them - and was worried they'd be bored. We have to travel too far - is the problem? She live about a 1-2 hour plane ride away. So just a quick weekend getaway doesn't quite work in regards to expense, and travel time.)
I don't really want advice on this. Mother would prefer to do something else with me, but we've not figured it out, and there are obstacles. My knees. Upcoming jury duty. Her health. My job.
My mother is like her own mother - generous to a fault, but undemanding, and not liking to impose or inconvenience anyone. And I, alas, am like them both. We don't like being high maintenance, or asking for help in my family. We like to be independent, and not put anyone out. So I may physically be high maintenance, but not emotionally. In fact, the first time my grandmother had a birthday party was when she turned 90, because her birthday fell on the day after Christmas. And she didn't want to make a fuss. Everyone in my immediate family hates to be the center of attention, doesn't like a fuss being made over them, and doesn't really understand folks that do.
**
Looked up Jilly Coopers Rivals series on Good Reads, and discovered from the reviews the following:
( Read more... )
Off to bed.
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